I HOSTED MY FIRST EVENT AT 16 : HOW IT FELT

MISCONCEPTION 2019 HAPPENED!

SO guess who’s back?? I took a break from blogging just because I was really focused on getting this event to work and boy was it hard to turn my dream to a reality but i’d say it went well! Before I get into all the feelings and thoughts that ran through my mind while I was planning and running this event, I really want to thank everyone again for supporting me through this whole thing. This event has taught me A LOT, it taught me who a lot of my real friends were, and showed me the right people who pushed me towards my dreams even when it sounded so small in the beginning. This blog post will consist of three parts, how I felt before, how I felt during the event and finally how I felt after. Let’s get into it…

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BEFORE

I was so driven to plan this event. I was talking about it almost everyday, researching all the venues and speakers and it was like I was breathing misconception literally. Planning it wasn’t easy, let me tell you.. I had multiple breakdowns at school when I would find out a speaker wanted to drop out, or a dance crew had other plans, but I had peace. The two things that got me through planning was an overload of peace and passion. If I wasn’t passionate about the event I was putting on and the reason I wanted to plan it in the first place, it definitely wouldn’t have happened. I probably would’ve quit sometime back in December and left it as an idea that blossomed in my mind. A month before the event happened, I got an overwhelming sense of fear that it wouldn’t pull through that I almost had the whole thing cancelled but with the encouragement of my Dad and my friends I kept on going.

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DURING

During the event, I don’t think I could’ve ever been happier. I had a lot of nerves the day of the event because all eyes were on me and I had a lot of wow Stella i’m so proud of you moments and I didn’t want it to sink in my head that I was really doing what I was doing in that moment. I really enjoyed seeing my family and best-friends come out to support me and the day was honestly better than I ever imagined. I had a mentality not to keep my hopes up incase it all failed, but on the day of misconception, everything went off the charts. It was like I was in my own world the whole time and I loved every second of it.

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AFTER

After the event was over and I finally said the words, “ thank you so much for coming and that’s it!” It was like a flow of adrenaline flew out through my body and a sense of peace just came down on me. I thought to myself, YOU DID THAT, YOU HAD A DREAM AND YOU DID IT AND IT WORKED. It was the best feeling ever like I don’t think there are words to describe how I honestly felt in that moment. I thought it honestly be selfish to feel that way but I had to realize its okay to be proud of myself for something I have accomplished and that doesn’t mean i’m not “humble”.

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Moving forward I just wan’t to make sure my work doesn’t stop here, the planning for Misconception 2020 is already in the works and hopefully my social media platform will be up soon!!

Love you guys so much.

xoxo Sj

EAT WITH STEL : MY FAVOURITE BREAKFAST

If you haven’t had this, I genuinely don’t think you’re living..


yes so there is not much to say about this post other than the fact that its my absolute favourite thing to eat ever plus, its very easy to make so enjoy!!

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What you need

2 pieces of Toast / a Bagel

1 Banana

Some peanut butter

Honey

Additional: Hot chocolate/Coffee/Tea/Smoothie

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xoxo Sj

HOW TO LOOK GOOD ON A BUDGET : STELS FIT 009

These are the kind of videos I used to love to watch on youtube because honestly, your girl needed the tips. I am technically not completely broke since I have a job, but was I spending all my money on unnecessary clothes with probably my whole paycheque? Maybe. I decided to share with y’all some tips that I have found to be recently useful so you guys still look good but, yunno, on a budget.

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  1. Quality over Quantity

When it comes to buying a lot of clothes versus quality clothing, I used to go for the quantity method. I thought buying a lot of cheap clothes would be better but trust me, it’s completely wrong. When you buy clothes that that are cheaper, the colours tend to fade faster and the overall quality of the clothing item goes downwards incredibly fast. I’m not saying all stores that don’t have expensive clothing immediately are going to be bad quality, but sometimes you can just tell. Some ways you can immediately tell if something is higher quality is if you can see the strong stitching, strong fabrics, metal zippers, etc. When I started buying more clothing that were higher in quality, I wanted to wear the item more and find more ways to style it as well.

2. Wear Accessories

Accessorize. This is the one that helps me the most honestly. You could wear the most BASIC outfit but add hoops, add a few layers of gold necklaces, add rings and honestly you look 100X better. It adds an expensive look. It shows that you put a bit of effort into your outfit even if you didn’t really intend to. This is probably my biggest advice because I just started wearing more accessories and I feel better and more confident in my outfits as well.

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3. Go Thrifting

This is hands down my favourite tip. Thrifting is really where it’s at. When I go thrifting since I’m into men’s streetwear I am always finding the nice hoodies, sweatshirts and pants in the mens section. I love to go through and find clothes that I can cut and make my own so they aren’t the same old boring clothes I find. When you go thrifting it is so easy to find brands that are high end and vintage like tommy Hilfiger, Ralph Lauren, Levi, kappa, champion, fila and many more. I highly advice people to check out thrifting!!

4. Invest in the classics

This is one of the most important tips. Having a balanced closet is more necessary before you can go out and be adventurous with your style and everything else. Some staples that everyone should have are a plain white and black shirt, long sleeved and short sleeved, a pair of jeans, a jean jacket, a sweatshirt, and many more. Once you have all these it is easier to build outfits from them. While researching I found that if you have 20 shirts, to go with 10 pairs of pants, 5 pairs of shorts and 2 skirts, can apparently make over a hundred different outfits which is honestly amazing. SO, start slow, when you are on a budget the best thing to do is make sure you have all of the classics before you go out and expand.

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5. Look for Sales

My last but not least favourite tip, is look for sales. I used to be someone who just sees something I liked and honestly just bought it. When you look for sales you really do save money that you could use to invest in other pieces and build your closet slowly through that method. I use apps/extensions like shoptagr that tell me when my favourite items go on sale. ( you should all really check out the app!) It is just a better overall tip to save money, even though it may take a lot of patience and waiting for that specific item to go on sale, trust me , its really helpful.

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Outfit details

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Hope you guys enjoyed this post! if you have any questions email me at stellajanexo@gmail.com or DM me @stellajanexo.

xoxo Sj

MY ESSENTIALS RIGHT NOW

Hey Guys!!

So I haven’t really done a “favourites” blog post before but I guess I’m really in the mood of switching up my blog and trying different kinds of posts! So today I gathered a few beauty products that I have been loving and I even included my favourite book right now, and even a hair product for all my black girls out there LOL.

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First, we obviously have the Mario Badescu rose water that literally everyone has. I used to think it was super basic and useless and honestly I think It absolutely refreshens your skin and leaves in healthier, but that’s just my opinion. If you want a new primer or setter for your makeup I say get this cause it definitely works as both or a toner as well.

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So, this is a beauty favourite that i’ve loved so much for the past few months. Its the Anastasia Brow wiz and i’m in the shade Dark brown. I feel like this is for us lazy girls who just want to fill in our brows a little bit and wanna leave TBH. The only downside to it is that I feel like it runs out really fast :(

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The next favourite is the Kat von d tattoo liner. I recently just bought this eyeliner and I can already tell it’s one of the most long lasting eyeliners I’ve ever used. It also has a really flexible tip which is honestly perfect so I 1000% recommend this to anyone who needs a new eyeliner for sure.

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LASH SENSATIONAL. K if you haven’t heard about this mascara do you even wear makeup? But in all honesty I really like this mascara. Plus, you can find it at any drugstore which is amazing. The only thing I didn’t like about it was how clumpy it is when you first start using it, but later on it settles down. 100% recommend.

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Okay now this one is for my black ladies out there. This is by far the best gel I have used on my edges ( even though I don’t do them often). As you all know, sometimes when you use gel it ends up drying up white or crusty, but this gel actually keeps it down and laid for a pretty long time. I got it at my local African superstore :)

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I CANT STOP TALKING ABOUT THIS BOOK.. It’s basically about a young teenage girl called Starr who battles her life in the “hood” and her life at school which is where all the caucasians go. An incident occurs with one of her best friends that causes her world to crumble and start to clash. This book shows boldness at its finest and really explains some struggles black people go through when being discriminated. IM SERIOUS LIKE READ THIS BOOK.. the movie comes out on Oct 5th.


I hope you guys enjoyed this post and if you tried anything or read the book I recommended be sure to dm me on instagram and tell me what you think!

xoxo Sj