16 THINGS BEING 16 TAUGHT ME

17. Half Of 34. A quarter to 68.

If I could double my life right now, I’d most definitely be working a full time job, with 3 little kids by my side, hopefully living and married to someone I love and still inspiring others as the years fly past. If you know me, my birthday is a big deal to me. It is a whole additional year that I have been blessed with. Birthdays are a time to think about all the years you have lived and have gotten the chance to experience, and to be grateful that you have another opportunity to grow and learn. Not everyone makes it to 17, that’s a fact, so if you make it why not appreciate it, yunno?

Being 16 has taught me a lot. I have gotten over things I never ever thought I’d be able to get over and done things I never thought I would be able to do. All together I have made a list of 16 things being 16 has taught me. Each of these statements speak for themselves so I am not going to go into big details on each of them, but I hope you all learn something!!


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Life is not a race, everyone goes at their own pace. It’s not about who is accomplishing more than you right now, everyone has their time and it’s important we wait to see when that time for us will be.

TAKE RISKS

We don’t have enough time to dream and not take action

Having a relationship with your parents Is so important!

Having a big group of friends is nothing compared to having 2 or 3 people you trust with your life

There will always someone who doesn’t like you and that’s okay

Don’t be vulnerable with everyone



Trust God over anything

Even though It may not seem like it, your mother really does know what is best for you and only wants to see you succeed

Don’t let your insecurities get in the way of ruining a relationship with a good person

STOP COMPLAINING

When fear tries to stop you from taking a leap of faith, don’t let it

Think before you speak, words hurt more than anything physical

Don’t compare yourself to others

Always trust God’s timing

All things work together for our good

Hope you guys learnt something!!

xoxo Sj

Be Grateful, Be Humble II 12

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
— Marcel Proust

Be grateful, Be humble. This is one of the most important things I have learned through my 16 ( almost 17 ) years of life. It is so important to be grateful for the things we take for granted in life. This may be the school we attend, our talents, our parents, friends, finances, country and so so much more. I think it’s so important to take a few minutes out of our busy lives to really appreciate life and everything it throws at us, whether it be good or bad. Don’t forget to stay humble as well. Humble people go far in life whether you want to agree with me or not. That’s my mind for y’all today! Now let’s get into this CUTE outfit :)

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From my childhood I have always been the biggest girly girl, so dresses are kinda my thing. I wear dresses every Sunday but during weekdays I have always felt out of place wearing one. Going back to my girly girl routes and after seeing inspiration all over instagram, I decided to create this look . I decided to wear a turtle neck I recently thrifted with a denim dress I stole from my little sisters closet ( sorry Danielle ). To make the look a bit more casual I decided to throw on some bright white sneakers , white sunnies and called it a look.

SOME INSPIRATION


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OUTFIT DETAILS

Turtleneck shirt: Thrifted

Dress: Forever 21

Socks: Nike

Shoes: Airforce 1s

Sunglasses: Forever 21


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Hope You guys enjoyed this Post!!

xoxo Sj

I HOSTED MY FIRST EVENT AT 16 : HOW IT FELT

MISCONCEPTION 2019 HAPPENED!

SO guess who’s back?? I took a break from blogging just because I was really focused on getting this event to work and boy was it hard to turn my dream to a reality but i’d say it went well! Before I get into all the feelings and thoughts that ran through my mind while I was planning and running this event, I really want to thank everyone again for supporting me through this whole thing. This event has taught me A LOT, it taught me who a lot of my real friends were, and showed me the right people who pushed me towards my dreams even when it sounded so small in the beginning. This blog post will consist of three parts, how I felt before, how I felt during the event and finally how I felt after. Let’s get into it…

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BEFORE

I was so driven to plan this event. I was talking about it almost everyday, researching all the venues and speakers and it was like I was breathing misconception literally. Planning it wasn’t easy, let me tell you.. I had multiple breakdowns at school when I would find out a speaker wanted to drop out, or a dance crew had other plans, but I had peace. The two things that got me through planning was an overload of peace and passion. If I wasn’t passionate about the event I was putting on and the reason I wanted to plan it in the first place, it definitely wouldn’t have happened. I probably would’ve quit sometime back in December and left it as an idea that blossomed in my mind. A month before the event happened, I got an overwhelming sense of fear that it wouldn’t pull through that I almost had the whole thing cancelled but with the encouragement of my Dad and my friends I kept on going.

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DURING

During the event, I don’t think I could’ve ever been happier. I had a lot of nerves the day of the event because all eyes were on me and I had a lot of wow Stella i’m so proud of you moments and I didn’t want it to sink in my head that I was really doing what I was doing in that moment. I really enjoyed seeing my family and best-friends come out to support me and the day was honestly better than I ever imagined. I had a mentality not to keep my hopes up incase it all failed, but on the day of misconception, everything went off the charts. It was like I was in my own world the whole time and I loved every second of it.

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AFTER

After the event was over and I finally said the words, “ thank you so much for coming and that’s it!” It was like a flow of adrenaline flew out through my body and a sense of peace just came down on me. I thought to myself, YOU DID THAT, YOU HAD A DREAM AND YOU DID IT AND IT WORKED. It was the best feeling ever like I don’t think there are words to describe how I honestly felt in that moment. I thought it honestly be selfish to feel that way but I had to realize its okay to be proud of myself for something I have accomplished and that doesn’t mean i’m not “humble”.

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Moving forward I just wan’t to make sure my work doesn’t stop here, the planning for Misconception 2020 is already in the works and hopefully my social media platform will be up soon!!

Love you guys so much.

xoxo Sj

EAT WITH STEL : MY FAVOURITE BREAKFAST

If you haven’t had this, I genuinely don’t think you’re living..


yes so there is not much to say about this post other than the fact that its my absolute favourite thing to eat ever plus, its very easy to make so enjoy!!

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What you need

2 pieces of Toast / a Bagel

1 Banana

Some peanut butter

Honey

Additional: Hot chocolate/Coffee/Tea/Smoothie

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xoxo Sj

TREND ALERT! SNAKE PRINT

Yes. I know I’m SUPER late on this trend…..

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WOW. This trend is honestly one that I have had my eye on for the past few weeks. Even though I am not someone who has been into patterns, and what not, I am super into this trend. I love how this trend brings out a sense of confidence and boldness without intent. I am not an expert on trends, but I love to keep an eye out for them. This will be a regular post on my blog and I am not intending to spend a lot of time talking about the trend but I would love to keep you guys posted by showing you through the pictures and outfits I find all over Instagram and Pinterest.

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Don’t forget to buy your misconception tickets!!

xoxo SJ

LOVE GALORE

whew what a day yesterday was…

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On days like yesterday I like to ask myself. What does love really mean? Is it really physical touch and gifts? Is it just the thought of having someone to keep us from reverting to our lonely selves? is it really just the deep affection we feel for someone who’s been with us for a certain period of time? I always think back to this verse for comfort and true understanding of what love really is…

4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. ( 1 corinthians 13:4-7)

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Whether you are christian or not, this is the foundation of love. To me, Love is sacrifice. it’s putting someones happiness before your own without damaging yourself. If you are in a relationship with someone and you find your self impatient, rude, jealous, proud, keeping records of wrong, is it really true love? Love has its ups and downs, but if we aren’t focusing and basing our love on these principles, is it love at all? There are so many relationships that are built solely on lust and desires that shouldn’t be the base of any relationship, but our generation seems to be obsessed with the fact that it’s okay. It breaks my heart to see more and more marriages failing and it looks like it is getting to the point where marriage might not be the goal after all, when it should be the primary focus. Love isn’t something that is easy to describe, in my experience it’s not easy at all. At a young age it’s hard to describe what Love is or to even comprehend the complexity of it, but all I know is that It’s something we all can’t live with out. The anticipation of loving someone for the rest of your life, or even learning to love the people right down your street, is definitely not as easy task, but it is not hard to take a step in the right direction.

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Outfit details

Long-sleeved black shirt: Aritzia

Jeans: Garage

Fur coat: Garage

That’s my mind on Love right now, I’m only 16 so hey what do I really know? Hope you guys enjoyed this post, I see y’all in my next post :))

xoxoSJ

"MISCONCEPTON 2019"

I’m hosting an event?? Let me explain..

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Why did I call it Misconception?

I decided to name this event misconception to represent the misconceptions of our culture today. There are so many Teens and young adults in the creative industry who are not heard and are not properly represented by their form of art, this is why I decided to go with the title, ‘ misconception’.

What is the purpose for this event?

The purpose of the event is to unite different creatives who are currently in high school or graduated. This includes bloggers, artists, dancers, designers, poets, digital artists, photographers, models, songwriters etc. The sole purpose of the event is to connect all these Vancouver creatives who might not have a platform or a place to speak about their passions. I want to make sure that their voices are heard. I would also like to make this event to give opportunities to some creatives who want to share their story to other starting up creatives just to encourage the rest.

What will the event consist of?

The event will mainly be focused on the different pathways each of these creative people took to get where they are and the different struggles and obstacles that were in their way. Half of the event is also mainly focused on networking, also known as the” rooftop party”. This Part of the event will be the part where all the guests can get together to meet new people, and make connections. I think that this is really important because you don’t know whose talent will be beneficial to you in the future and having personal connections in Life is honestly just KEY. I will also be talking more about my story and what I went through before I became who I am today. Hope to see you all there!!!

Featured Speakers

  1. Legacy Jynn

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2. Megan Bravo

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3. Jayde B Tecson

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4. Dani your Darling

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5. YZOBEL

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6. Zuleyma Prado

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7. Aruè

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8. Julima

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xoxo SJ and SEE YOU THERE :)

SLASHED BY TIA

As you all know I love finding new and upcoming creatives and reading all about what they do and who they are. I was recently reading Teen Vogues 2018’s 21 under 21 and saw this upcoming designer making clothing for women of colour based out of the 16th century spanish renaissance era. I don’t know about you but I could not stop raving about how creative that was. She realized there was not enough representation of women of colour in the painting of royals and decided to take that and bring it into modern day fashion!

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Temi Adeola, also known as Tia, is a rising designer who was initially based in Lagos, Nigeria. In an Interview I recently watched about her NYFW debut with Nylon magazine, Tia explained how moving to New York truly inspired her to become more bold with her outfits and to take them to the next level. She wants to be able to create a look that would immediately allow girls to feel extra BOLD and CONFIDENT. Tia also added the sheer look to celebrate the female body, and the ruffles ( her signature look), to embellish the feminine look.

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Some looks from her SS18 collection..

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Celebrities like SZA, Cara Delevingne and Gigi Hadid have also fallen in love with her collection and continue to support her…

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Hope you all enjoyed today’s post.

Xoxo SJ

MY SAFE HAVEN

Here I am again with an abundance of thoughts and lo and behold, I’m surprisingly typing them all out to this little outlet I call my safe haven. I call this platform my safe haven because I truly can jump onto my computer and write out my feelings like I never have dreamed of saying out loud to someone sitting right next to me. To all those who know me may read that and think It’s a complete lie, but trust me. This Blog is made for me to be Me, and If i’m not myself here, where else would I be. In society where my parents are expecting me to be one thing, and friends are expecting me to be another, without something to myself ( and JESUS), my life would be in absolute shambles as of now.

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I keep on pondering the different routes I want to take this blog. Do I want to keep it extremely professional and just post about fashion related topics, or do i want to branch out and create different sections so that my voice is heard in the various ways I decide it should be heard. Judging by the fact that I am a 16 year old confused child, I’ll probably go with my inner gut when the time is right. For now be prepared to hear everything because this is my brain, this is my safe haven. If I can come here and feel safe, that’s all that matters to me. When life is throwing rocks at me to crumble into a being I refuse to be, I will find my confidence back here and I promise you guys that.

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I know I Know I talk and apologize about being inconsistent here, but do you guys wanna know the truth? I honestly get an overflow of ideas to the point where I am stuck. I see so many influencers on instagram on a daily basis that sometimes It’s hard to hear my true calling from God and my true purpose. Some things are clear, but others get pushed to the back of my mind like dust in a filled closet. With all that said, I am promising you guys more content this year, and if I don’t? maybe this is the year I will truly be set on the path of what I want to do and who knows where that will take me. For now, my goal is to stay true to who I am, and press in to the person God has called me to be. I love you all.

xoxo Sj

INSPIRATION OF THE MONTH - ALANI FIGUEROA

If you know me you know how much I love Alani, AKA @wuzg00d on instagram. Her style, the way she incorporates colour and the use of accessories, really stands out to me. Since I am slowly learning how to use the colour theory and experiment with different colours, she is a great fashion Icon to look up to, and this is why she is my inspiration for this month. You guys should check out her Instagram.

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ACCESSORIES

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xoxo Sj

HYPEBAE KICKS 2019

MY FIRST POST THIS YEAR !!

This is a bit of a different post because this year I really want to emphasize versatility and creative content on this blog. Hope you guys are having a great start to your year and are still keeping up with your goals, cos I’ve already seen some people vow to change in 2020 already. 2018 was the year I tested out the waters in the blogging and creative industry and I truly do feel that If I add as much hard work and commitment to this passion of mine, this blog will continue to grow and be successful.

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So, For this post I am going to be showing you guys the sneakers I feel were in this year ( 2018 ), and have been extremely popular. PLUS, I really want all of these hehe. I am not a HUGE sneaker head, but as my style evolves more into the streetwear side of fashion It’s something I have started to look into and love. There is not much to explain about these shoes so I will include the instagram handle of each shoe in each pic so you guys can check them out :)


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Hope y’all liked this post and found inspiration to go out and get some cuteee sneakers, okay love y’all

xoxo SJ

8 LESSONS I TOOK FROM 2018

It’s finally the end of the year, was it just me or was the first half of the year really slow, and suddenly flew past near the end? Maybe it’s just me.

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SO Yes. I’m back, I need to stop starting every post by apologizing for not being active ( sorry tho! ). As you can see from the title, I am sharing the 8 things I truly learnt in 2018. I wouldn’t call this year a bad year because this year was definitely a year of life changing experiences and situations that broke me but also helped me grow into a stronger individual.

Before I get into the 10 things I learnt, I hope you guys take today to reflect on the year and think about what you can do better for next year, as cliche as it sounds. It’s so easy to say, “ I’m gonna cut out all the fakes”, and all these goals that aren’t necessarily going to happen overnight. Instead we should make goals that we can actually start now. We should make goals that we know are things we and work towards and improve ourselves with.

Okay i’m done. Let’s hop right in.


Don’t Be Materialistic

Okay so I learnt about this a lot this year when I went on a missions trip to Mexico. I was given the opportunity to go out and help kids and help them grow in their faith. By building a house for a family along with my team, and donating food and other supplies to them, we flew in with the idea that they will be the most impacted, but that wasn’t the case. I left that trip realizing how much we depend on money, and accumulating clothes, etc, to try and make us happy. I saw the little kids in Mexico who were beaming with joy because they had each other, they had their friends, and they didn’t need anything else and that was one of the biggest lessons I learnt this year. There's no point accumulating everything in the world, if in the end we aren’t happy.

Don’t depend on others for your own happiness

Okay this one is pretty simple. Sis. Bro. whoever is reading this. I cannot stress enough how important it is not to depend on others to make you happy. People WILL fail you. That’s honestly just how life goes. I have learnt to be happy and content with myself, because I have seen that people will leave and I’m not just going to let my happiness leave with them so, it’s important to be content with ourselves and who we are.


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Someone will always not like you for no reason

This one I realized the hard way and it’s just a fact. SOMEONE WON’T LIKE YOU. Someone will always want what you have. They may envy you, want your intelligence, friends, they probably don’t even want to see you succeed, but going into 2019 I realized that it’s not worth stressing over these people. As long as your mind is on the right path and you are focused on your goals, You will be all good :)

When you are working on big things, work in secret

I learnt this after watching a sermon by one of my favourite pastors, Michael Tod, and he talked about how when you are called to success, you will be called in secret. You don’t have to share it to the whole world right away because remember, NOT EVERYONE WANTS TO SEE YOU SUCCEED. I am someone who loves to share my plans and successes with everyone but this year I am taking a step back and working in silence and with a trusted group of people.

A word of encouragement to anyone goes a long way

This was for sure something big I learnt this year. When you see someone, say hi, tell them they look good, encourage them. You never know what someone is going through, You never know what’s going on in their head or at home. I am someone who always wants to make sure everyone is okay and I hate to see people upset, so if I can say something little to make someones day just a little better, I will.


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The more you humble yourself, the more you will be lifted up

This one is just something everyone should know. This is something I have seen and it’s actually true. Like I know sometimes I am not the humblest person but towards the end of the year I realized that If you aren’t a servant to others, you will never be seen higher, or to simplify that, you will never be given respect. I have seen my dad especially serve others whole heartedly and people have no problem honouring him when it’s his birthday because he has spent so much time serving others and that’s one of the biggest goals for me this year and one of the biggest pieces of advice I wanted to share with you guys.

If your identity isn’t fully found in God, you will never be satisfied

This one is just something I’ve learnt over the years since if you didn’t know already, I’m a christian, and I used to struggle with where I found my identity. I used to find my identity in how much money I had, who my friends were, what I was wearing and all that added up to nothing. All these things left me feeling lonely, and tired and obviously just broken. I realized that If my identity isn’t found in God, the one who calls me his own, the one who made me and knows me in and out, I will never be satisfied with the world and who I aspire to be.

Taking risks won’t cost you anything

Now this brings me to my very last point and this one is just to TAKE RISKS. Honestly, think about it, what is there to lose? Nothing. That’s the answer. This year I took a leap and published this blog and sometimes It’s hard but It’s a risk I took and I don’t regret it . So, if you have a plan or business idea, why not start it? This may be your year :)

SO That’s the end of my lessons from 2018. I have a BIG ANNOUNCEMENT to make soon this year and I am so excited to share it wish you guys!! ( it’ll be more for the people in Vancouver )

HAPPY NEW YEAR

xoxo Sj

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STYLING CARGO PANTS II 011

It’s another Fashion post! You guys really like it when I post these, so I came through.

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So, I’d like to thank Misguided for sponsoring us. No i’m kidding I wish LOL, but as you can see my friend Samantha and I are both styling the cargo pants we both bought from Misguided USA. The quality of these pants in my opinion were the perfect fit. They are really high waisted which is something I was really hoping they’d be, and I was excited to see that they came through with what I expected. Since this was the first time I had personally bought anything online, I would definitely rate misguided a 9/10 and would love to shop there again.

My only disclaimer about buying clothes from misguided is that since they are an American store there will be an extra tax that will be sent a few days after you checkout your items, just so you are aware.

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MY OUTFIT DETAILS

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SAMANTHA’S OUTFIT DETAILS

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So, I hope you guys enjoyed this post. Tell me if you want to see more reviews or anything at all!. Be sure to check out my instagram @stellajanexo :))

** All photos were taken by my Amazing friend Angelie Sutch

FUTURISTIC THOUGHTS II 010

This is me stepping up my game and posting more outfits, you’re welcome.

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As you all know, I am 16 and a junior in high school, This means my future is coming up fast. Sometimes I feel like I have it all together and I know what I want to do for sure, but recently that’s all changed. I have always been so scared of going for my dreams of working solely in the fashion industry even if it’s not what my parents are others want for me. It’s kinda scary, following your dreams. I think thoughts like what if i don’t succeed? what if my parents were right? should I have become a doctor all along?

I was having a little chat with my dad and I asked him a really good question. I asked if he wakes up happy to work everyday. He told me how much he loves what he does and advised me that it’s my life and I should do what I know will make me happy in the future. I was always scared of asking my dad, I really don’t know why. Maybe it was the feeling of thinking he would be disappointed in me, but look how that turned out!

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My advice to anyone who feels the needs to go against their passion to impress others is stop. Its your life! You should be able to follow your dreams, BE A RISK TAKER, live out your passion and most importantly to be happy. I know it sounds super cliche but TRUST ME, you will be happy in the end. I am not saying I suddenly have my whole life figured out but, it’s definitely a step in the right direction.

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Hope you guys enjoyed todays post! Let me know if you don’t like it or love it more when I include stuff in my personal life in my posts, I honestly just feel the need to encourage people out there and help them if they are going through any hard times. If you guys ever need anyone to talk to remember I am always there :))))

STELS FIT II 009

FALL OUTFIT FINALLY HERE.

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Technically I look super cold and not gonna lie it was 3 degrees outside, but I got to shoot pics for y’all so we’re all good! I am honestly IN LOVE with the layered gold chain necklace trend right now. Not only is it a big fashion trend, it’s representing hip hop and rap culture which I respect and love as well.


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I recently went thrifting with my dad and that is where I found this Amazing utility vest. I wasn’t sure how to go about styling this to start out, but after trying it out with a few different outfits, I realized I love the pop of colour it gives with a monochromatic base.

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OUTFIT DETAILS

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Hope you guys enjoyed this post. I will make sure to come through with more outfit posts since you guys really seem to love those. Make sure to follow my instagram to know when I post :))

xoxo Sj

A PERFECT PLAN

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
— Jeremiah 29:11

There is a lot about timing about life that we don’t understand. Why do good people die? Why are the people we love taken away from us? Why can’t the way we want our lives to look like work out? Over these past couple of weeks I have battled with understanding perfect timing since a lot of situations in my life started to go off-side.

I started to question God and my faith in him, as to why things in my life that seemed so perfect, went wrong. I didn’t understand why everyone would tell me.. ”It’s okay Stella, it’s God’s plan”. Why would a God who loves us make us sad. I struggled with this for a couple of days. After talking to a lot of my friends and older mentors, I realized it was all part of a perfect plan.

I wanted to make this post to encourage everyone because I feel like we all go through hardships in life and we start to question our existence and why things go wrong. I have come to understand that things happen for a reason. You might go through family, financial, social and many other issues, but it always happens for a reason. It makes us stronger. God wouldn’t give you anything he knows you can’t handle. It might happen to strengthen your relationship with others or even with your relationship with God himself.

When things go wrong, we shouldn’t overly stress ourselves about them. We should’t spend days crying about them. We should try and focus on the brighter side no matter how hard it may be. One day, you will look back and see these situations as things that happened to make you a better and stronger person.

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New york necklace: Aldo

Flower necklace: Forever 21

Rings: Forever 21

xoxo Sj

HOW TO LOOK GOOD ON A BUDGET : STELS FIT 009

These are the kind of videos I used to love to watch on youtube because honestly, your girl needed the tips. I am technically not completely broke since I have a job, but was I spending all my money on unnecessary clothes with probably my whole paycheque? Maybe. I decided to share with y’all some tips that I have found to be recently useful so you guys still look good but, yunno, on a budget.

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  1. Quality over Quantity

When it comes to buying a lot of clothes versus quality clothing, I used to go for the quantity method. I thought buying a lot of cheap clothes would be better but trust me, it’s completely wrong. When you buy clothes that that are cheaper, the colours tend to fade faster and the overall quality of the clothing item goes downwards incredibly fast. I’m not saying all stores that don’t have expensive clothing immediately are going to be bad quality, but sometimes you can just tell. Some ways you can immediately tell if something is higher quality is if you can see the strong stitching, strong fabrics, metal zippers, etc. When I started buying more clothing that were higher in quality, I wanted to wear the item more and find more ways to style it as well.

2. Wear Accessories

Accessorize. This is the one that helps me the most honestly. You could wear the most BASIC outfit but add hoops, add a few layers of gold necklaces, add rings and honestly you look 100X better. It adds an expensive look. It shows that you put a bit of effort into your outfit even if you didn’t really intend to. This is probably my biggest advice because I just started wearing more accessories and I feel better and more confident in my outfits as well.

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3. Go Thrifting

This is hands down my favourite tip. Thrifting is really where it’s at. When I go thrifting since I’m into men’s streetwear I am always finding the nice hoodies, sweatshirts and pants in the mens section. I love to go through and find clothes that I can cut and make my own so they aren’t the same old boring clothes I find. When you go thrifting it is so easy to find brands that are high end and vintage like tommy Hilfiger, Ralph Lauren, Levi, kappa, champion, fila and many more. I highly advice people to check out thrifting!!

4. Invest in the classics

This is one of the most important tips. Having a balanced closet is more necessary before you can go out and be adventurous with your style and everything else. Some staples that everyone should have are a plain white and black shirt, long sleeved and short sleeved, a pair of jeans, a jean jacket, a sweatshirt, and many more. Once you have all these it is easier to build outfits from them. While researching I found that if you have 20 shirts, to go with 10 pairs of pants, 5 pairs of shorts and 2 skirts, can apparently make over a hundred different outfits which is honestly amazing. SO, start slow, when you are on a budget the best thing to do is make sure you have all of the classics before you go out and expand.

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5. Look for Sales

My last but not least favourite tip, is look for sales. I used to be someone who just sees something I liked and honestly just bought it. When you look for sales you really do save money that you could use to invest in other pieces and build your closet slowly through that method. I use apps/extensions like shoptagr that tell me when my favourite items go on sale. ( you should all really check out the app!) It is just a better overall tip to save money, even though it may take a lot of patience and waiting for that specific item to go on sale, trust me , its really helpful.

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Hope you guys enjoyed this post! if you have any questions email me at stellajanexo@gmail.com or DM me @stellajanexo.

xoxo Sj

BEING THANKFUL

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!

Just in case you are in another country, it’s thanksgiving out here in Canada! There are a lot of things and people I am thankful for in my life, so being me, I decided to write a little letter to each of the different categories of people in my life that have brought me here and made me the person I am today. If you read my old blog you probably remember my post like this from last year and that also means you are a real one and I love you. Let’s get started..

Dear God,

There are a lot of things I am thankful for but you are the most important. You created me, my world, my surroundings, put me in a loving home with a good family, blessed me with all my friends and you do so much more. Even though life gets hard and I start to blame you and wonder why you do different things in my life, I have learnt to trust you. I have learnt to put my trust in you because I know that everything happens for a reason. Thank you for your everlasting love that overwhelms me everyday. Im very grateful

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Dear Family,

We may have our ups and downs, since there are 7 of us, but I love you all so much. You guys are my rock and my foundation. I know you guys will never leave me no matter how hard I may make you upset. You also encourage me to reach for dreams and to be the best version of me I can be and for that I’m very grateful.

Dear Friends,

The people I basically see everyday. The people who make me laugh until I cry. You guys have seen me on my best days and you have seen me on some of my worst days. Without you I don’t know where I would be today. You guys are the most solid group of people I know and the most beautiful people inside and out as well. I am forever grateful for you guys.

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To all those who failed me,

You guys hurt me. Probably made me stay up nights crying about different situations. I don’t hold anything against you guys. There aren’t a lot of you. I just wanted you to know that without you hurting me I wouldn’t be the strong, confident woman I am today. I wouldn’t have this blog because I would be stuck in my insecure ways. I am grateful you gave me the opportunity to stand up and be myself. Thank you.

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To all of you who read my blog,

You guys don’t understand how much you mean to me. This blog is my baby, my true love. It’s something I could never have done when I was little. When life was hard, I wish i had a place to come to and talk about what I love and share what I cared about. To all you readers out there, whether you are 50 people or even a 1,000 , I hope you read this and are encouraged to live your life and carry out your dreams, whether that means starting a youtube channel, striving for your athletic goas, getting into that top school, I hope I encourage you to be confident in who you are and to genuinely be yourself. I’m really not anyone special, but if I can inspire at least one person my life goal is complete. I love you all and I’m forever grateful for you.

5 FALL TRENDS TO TRY THIS SEASON

Okay if you know me you know that I LOVE fall, like I’m OBSESSED. Fall is just the perfect weather, it’s not hot and It’s not super cold. For people like me who live in Vancouver, it mainly means theres a lot of rain but I don’t even go out that much so thats’ not that bad. When i do go out, it’s finally time for me to layer and experiment with different pieces and to me that is what fashion is all about. So in this post get ready to read all about the latest and most crucial trends for this season. xoxo

LAYERING

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Layering is for sure an absolute MUST when it coms to fall. When it is in the summer months, we try to wear as little as possible, on the contrary, fall is about wearing as much as you can to keep you warm, while looking cute as well. With layering you can layer sweaters, jackets, scarves, jewelry, and many more. Layering is honestly up to you, there is no “ fancy” way to layer. Below are some of the best examples from fashion inspirations all over instagram and google who take it to a more creative level whiles still staying cozy and warm.

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STATEMENT BELTS

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Now this is the trend I have been wanting to hop on for the past few months. Statement belts. The two that You have probably seen a lot on social media, are probably the Gucci or off-white statement belt. If you go for a more simpler belt like the Gucci belt it gives your outfit more of a minimalistic, girly but bold view. It doesn’t even have to be Gucci, as long as it is a belt with a bigger statement piece to display it works! On the other hand if you wear a belt like the off-white belt you gain a more creative, extravagant, fashionable look because it is not any other belt looking at the length and many more other factors. I definitely want to invest in a belt like one of these and you should too to spice it up this season.

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LONG /OVERSIZED COATS

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This is honestly a crucial must have for this season for sure! Not only does these keep you insanely warm, you can pair one of these with just about anything.You could dress up any lazy outfit just by putting on a cute coat and you are good to go. I love to wear hoodies and sweats at home and honestly when I want to leave my house I just put on my long fur jacket and people think i tried! So this trend is for all you lazy ones who still wanna look fashionable.. I got youu :)

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PUFFER JACKET

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The puffer jacket. This jacket was really big last year and I’m really hoping it’s going to come back this season. WHETHER it comes back OR NOT I still say its one of the cutest essentials to have for fall. It instantly adds a street effect to your outfit even when you don’t intend it. It can be dressed up or down, just like the previous coat trend. I will be definitely on the look out for one of these jackets this season and I recommend you do too!

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ANYTHING LEATHER / PATENT

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PATENT LEATHER. This is a trend that is currently uprising this season and it’s honestly everywhere. When you walk into designer stores, basic stores in the mall or even thrift stores, you will see something to do with patent leather. It could be pants, shoes, clothes they have it. It brings a really edgy vibe and make you look more expensive and more elegant that you even intended to be. I for sure will be trying to find some patent boots for the season!!

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Hope you guys enjoyed today’s post !! if any of these trends were interesting and you decided to buy any of these, be sure to message me on any of my social medias or send me an email :)

xoxo Sj

MY ESSENTIALS RIGHT NOW

Hey Guys!!

So I haven’t really done a “favourites” blog post before but I guess I’m really in the mood of switching up my blog and trying different kinds of posts! So today I gathered a few beauty products that I have been loving and I even included my favourite book right now, and even a hair product for all my black girls out there LOL.

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First, we obviously have the Mario Badescu rose water that literally everyone has. I used to think it was super basic and useless and honestly I think It absolutely refreshens your skin and leaves in healthier, but that’s just my opinion. If you want a new primer or setter for your makeup I say get this cause it definitely works as both or a toner as well.

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So, this is a beauty favourite that i’ve loved so much for the past few months. Its the Anastasia Brow wiz and i’m in the shade Dark brown. I feel like this is for us lazy girls who just want to fill in our brows a little bit and wanna leave TBH. The only downside to it is that I feel like it runs out really fast :(

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The next favourite is the Kat von d tattoo liner. I recently just bought this eyeliner and I can already tell it’s one of the most long lasting eyeliners I’ve ever used. It also has a really flexible tip which is honestly perfect so I 1000% recommend this to anyone who needs a new eyeliner for sure.

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LASH SENSATIONAL. K if you haven’t heard about this mascara do you even wear makeup? But in all honesty I really like this mascara. Plus, you can find it at any drugstore which is amazing. The only thing I didn’t like about it was how clumpy it is when you first start using it, but later on it settles down. 100% recommend.

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Okay now this one is for my black ladies out there. This is by far the best gel I have used on my edges ( even though I don’t do them often). As you all know, sometimes when you use gel it ends up drying up white or crusty, but this gel actually keeps it down and laid for a pretty long time. I got it at my local African superstore :)

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I CANT STOP TALKING ABOUT THIS BOOK.. It’s basically about a young teenage girl called Starr who battles her life in the “hood” and her life at school which is where all the caucasians go. An incident occurs with one of her best friends that causes her world to crumble and start to clash. This book shows boldness at its finest and really explains some struggles black people go through when being discriminated. IM SERIOUS LIKE READ THIS BOOK.. the movie comes out on Oct 5th.


I hope you guys enjoyed this post and if you tried anything or read the book I recommended be sure to dm me on instagram and tell me what you think!

xoxo Sj